Filmmaker Kevin Smith and his actress daughter, Harley Quinn Smith discuss her decision to go vegan over a meal at Doomie’s Home Cookin’ in LA. The father-daughter duo have an open and honest conversation about the stigma of vegan food, what we were taught growing up about eating animals and why Harley wanted to “go all the way” for them The video is part of Farm Sanctuary’s Compassionate Meals series, which encourages people to take a friend out for a compassionate meal and engage in conversation about what compassion is.
Instead of taking a bullying approach that so many animal activists resort to, the Compassionate Meals series opens the conversation between vegans and nonvegans to talk about our beliefs and the welfare of animals.
The relationship between a Mother and her son is one that transcends time. No matter the age of your child they are still your baby and you want to protect them. I remember speaking to a therapist (and close friend) years ago regarding my son. I will never forget this conversation as long as I live. She was actually out on the road touring with us at my son’s request. He was on a rampage of using and drinking night after night. She did her best to try and use every tool she possessed to help him understand how bad his addiction had become. He would not listen. I was in a total bubble of denial about his addiction and refused to see it. This was not helpful to either of us.
After one particularly bad night I sat down with her and asked openly, “Is my son an addict?” She answered “YES”. My heart instantly fell into a bottomless pit of pain. I began to sob and asked her for help. A few days later my son was flown to rehab; he was safe.
Safety and happiness are all a parent really wants for their child. I was no different. However, my lack of knowledge about this insidious disease caused me to become one of my son’s greatest enablers. I submerged myself in every book, article and conversation that had to do with addiction and recovery. I needed to know what my child was going through and how best I could help us both. This was the key and first step to my own healing.
I know that a Mother’s first instinct is to protect her child at all costs, but in this case that is not the best way to help them. They need to learn to deal with their demons and heal in their own time and space. A lot of people talk about tough love, but I am not a believer in that path. No matter how bad things became, I never gave up or turned my son away. I was there for him whenever he asked for help. We all have our own roads to follow in this life. Choose yours wisely and with compassion and understanding. If you think your child is using, seek guidance from a professional or a group. Al-Anon is a good place to begin. There are also a lot of websites to turn to with meetings and articles of help. I was told by one of my son’s therapists in rehab these words of wisdom: “You cannot help your child unless you put your healing first.” I have found them to be true.
Just remember, you were there when they fell down the first time, so be there to help lift them up each time they ask. You will love yourself for it.
On February 21, the 3rd Annual “Gold Meets Golden” event celebrated the best of sport, film & television on Hollywood’s most Golden Weekend of the Academy Awards. Held at the Equinox Sports Club West Los Angeles location, Gold Meets Golden event hosts Nicole Kidman, Maria Shriver, Gina Rodriguez, and Matt Bomer; and Olympic Legend Hosts Greg Louganis, Nadia Comaneci and Bart Conner; and pro-athlete host Jamaal Wilkes; brought together Hollywood & Sport to welcome the upcoming 2015 Special Olympic World Games.
Celebrities Katie Holmes, Chris Evans, Travis Van Winkle, Lauren Potter, Justin Baldoni, Trevor Donovan, Geoff Stults, Grace Gealy, Jon Seda and many more, who all interacted with the athletes on the carpet and inside the event, also attended “Gold Meets Golden” to celebrate entertainment & sport.
Olympic guests included figure skaters Gracie Gold and Ashley Wagner; winter & summer athlete Lolo Jones; swimmers Conor Dwyer, Jessica Hardy, Brianne McLaughlin and Mark Spitz; beach volleyball player Jennifer Kessy, and many more.
Professional athlete Terrell Owens joined the celebrity guests in telling the crowd to “Reach Up LA!” for the 2015 Special Olympics World Games.
But perhaps the most honored guests of the evening were 2015 Special Olympic World Games Global Messengers & Athletes led by Kristin Knutson, Dustin Plunkett and Debi Anderson, who spoke enthusiastically about the spirit of inclusion embodies by the Special Olympic World Games.
Guests enjoyed a collection of Olympic memorabilia from long-time Olympic sponsor Coca-Cola, a Special Olympics World Games photo opp featuring the Circle of Inclusion, and a delicious lunch including Farmer’s Market Frittatas, Quail Egg in a Hole, and Ginger Macaroons from Heirloom LA.
“The Rock Star Remedy” (Harper Wave) is a detailed, but not one-size fits all, lifestyle outline that benefits the mind, body and soul. Dr. Gabrielle Francis has practiced natural medicine for over 33 years while traveling with the most famous rock bands in the world.
In her book, Dr. Francis along with Stacy Baker recommends a 90/10 lifestyle — which basically allows for 10% of your life to fall off the rails a bit, whether it be with overindulging in food or drink, or not sleeping enough. The main part of “The Rock Star Remedy” involves a 21-day detox that eliminates several items, mainly wheat, dairy, sugar, alcohol and caffeine. After the detox, you can introduce some of these things again, but in healthier ways.
A unique aspect of this “diet” book is that it isn’t really a diet book. It acts as more of a guide to cure or improve the effects of fatigue, pain, depression and many other things along with helping weight loss and overall mental health. With anecdotes from many rock stars, like Steven Tyler, Courtney Love, Tommy Lee and Dave Navarro, the book is entertaining, educational and helpful. It allows the reader to choose what may or may not work for them. There is no specific calorie count, strict workout regimen, diet pills with side effects, or terrible tasting shakes or high-sodium prepackaged meals.
Instead, the reader will learn about essential oils and foods that will support their immune system while being encouraged to sleep more, try meditation, and get massages regularly.
Maybe we’re not touring the world with crazy rock star schedules, but most of us whine about our lifestyles and make excuses why we can’t be healthier. Dr. Francis squashes those excuses in an encouraging, positive way.
Hello again! I hope these blogs are helping you to understand more about the DISEASE of ADDICTION. It took me years of study to truly understand it, so I empathize with those of you who have loved ones suffering with their demons. How you, as a spouse, Mother, Father, sibling, handle your relationship with an addict impacts them tremendously. They may not care to show that while they are using, but your support through that time will definitely be rewarded once they are in recovery. I know this from first hand experience with my own son.
Trust is probably the most touchy issue within this addiction dynamic. You have probably lost all faith in the addict because of his or her lies and manipulations. If your loved one is truly in recovery and working their 12 steps, then this would be the time to sit down and talk to them about exactly what they are doing to maintain their sobriety. Yes, people, ASK QUESTIONS!!!Communication is the key to success here as with any relationship. They should now be ready to quietly and calmly talk to you about their reasons for using and how you may have impacted them during that time.
When you have this talk please BE PREPARED. Before you sit down, simply write a list of the questions. Be patient with them as they answer and do not judge them for any criticism they may toss at you. This should be a time of honest, open discussion, not bashing.
Finally, I would advise to be as loving and supportive of them now in their recovery as you can possibly be. We tend to walk on eggshells while they are using as well as when they are sober. Not necessary if you can talk frankly about how both of you truly feel, NOW.