3 Things I Discovered While On Retreat

Reflecting on my birthday writing retreat and what time alone can teach you about yourself.

Just Say NO

“As an adult, it was finally time to exercise my right to say NO.”

Don't Be A Victim Of Self-Inflicted Pressure

When I chose a path of journalism and being an author, it was not to make money. It was to fulfill my inner desires and goals; it was to connect with myself and other people, and nothing made me happier. But, I always doubted myself because society says a career is where most of your income is created. There were times in my career where I didn’t make a dime — sure, there were perks, like free concerts, CDs, DVDs, clothes and to hang out with celebrities, but ultimately, I did it because I loved it all…

It's OK to be Mad.

Sometimes we feel ashamed to admit when we’re depressed or struggling. For me, personally, I feel pressure to always be happy. This pressure not only comes from those who have known me to be the girl who is always smiling, always laughing, even when she’s crying, and the one who always looks at the positives more than the negatives; but this pressure is even more so self-inflicted. I want to be that person 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. That Sandy has a ton of friends. She interviews cool celebrities. She travels the country by herself like a boss. That Sandy wrote 8 novels that she hopes will inspire others to be happy. The truth is… Happiness is not easy.

Your Opinion Of You Is The Only One That Matters

Bullies can appear in any circumstance, at any stage of your life, and can sometimes be from those who are supposed to care most. I have been reminded of this recently and had to remind myself that self-love is the most important thing. Without it, you can become your own bully.